"You and I have a special talent. And I saw it immediately. We're the substitute people. I've been the substitute person my whole life. I'm not an Ellen [a co-worker Drew was into]. I never wanted to be an Ellen. And I'm not a Cindy either. Although Chuck's love me [Chuck and Cindy are the couple next to Drew in the hotel who are getting married…as for the "Chuck's love me" line…you'll just have to see the movie to get it]. I like being alone too much. I mean, I'm with a guy who is married to his academic career. I rarely see him and I'm the substitute person there. I like it that way. It's a lot less pressure."
Who hasn't felt like a substitute person at some point? While being a substitute person does mean that you had to be close enough to the real thing to earn the title of substitute, it also means that you weren't quite good enough, or funny enough, or smart enough, or good-looking enough. And the worst thing about it is—you know it, but since being a substitute person is better than not being in the game, you accept the position.
-Elizabethhtown 2005
I believe a few of us could definitely relate to being a "substitute people", a close friend of mine, was sort of being a substitute people until he woke up recently? He's the one and only m3ngo!
I've once believed in giving love your everything, it does not matter whether you are with that person or you're just a substitute, if you love that person, you should give your everything. Till the last relationship I had, I finally realized, why do we have to be the substitute people? We all do have a choice right?
In the event that you come 2nd, tell yourself to simply move along and get with someone else that truly appreciate you for who you are? Everyone has his/her own character or traits which is created by god, for that particular someone, to cherish, love and walk the rest of your life with ya.
Every new relationship would definitely feel like "He/She is someone so special that I'll never ever find someone like him/her again" But, face it? EVERY NEW PROPER RELATIONSHIP will feel like this.
Else just accept the fact that "得不到的，永远是最好的” , The best thing in life is probably the ones you never had?
When you learn to love yourself, you're better off by far : ))))
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